Journey to the ring

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I have been accepted to compete in a charity boxing event to raise money for Cancer.  As soon as I found out I paused, wasn’t sure whether to announce it or go ahead with it for reasons. 

Once that was behind me, my first thought was let’s train. I don’t have a start date, it looks like it’s going to be around May-June. They offer 8 weeks training. As far I’m concerned training starts now.

 

 

Background

growing up in Portsmouth my dad made sure to get me in Karate and many other forms of combat sports. I learnt a lot but more than anything I learnt respect. As I got older I figured Karate, JKD and other rangy striking Martial Arts were not ideal for my body type being short; fairly upper body strong, shorter range. I found Wrestling, no not the WWE type wrestling where the Rock was doing the people’s elbow but the sport Wrestling. Wrestling was more suited to my style being fast, strong with good hips and Dexterity. Wrestling is rough, slamming or getting slammed by another person who weighs equal to you was a common thing and clashing of heads, getting elbowed, cut lips was common so it teaches you how to overcome adversity. The most important aspect of wrestling was the discipline, I became way more respectful, and wanted to study many forms of Martial Arts. A lot of people get into combat sports for the wrong reasons, because they want to hurt people, or because they think it’s cool. Those types of people either become dangerous, or they get a wake up call when they find out there’s nothing cool about getting a knee to the face or picked up and man handled on a wrestling mat. In my experience more people leave with more respect than when they came in. I’ve never boxed before, this is new to me. I don’t know how to translate my power into my punches when it comes to boxing. I can kick box, Thai box, but not boxed, the movement, efficiently, there’s a whole different aspect to boxing even though it’s limited to arms so for me I’m a beginner in this and I like that

 

My mentality going into this

Because the contest is so far away, it’s hard to say how I feel. I’m in the process of bettering myself and to get myself in shape to the point the contest will be a breeze. I will say I’m going to be nervous. I mean I’m going to walk into a ring half-naked with a guy the same weight as me who is trying to punch me in the face and get me out of there so yeah there will be a lot of emotions on the day of the contest. I just want one person by my side through this and seeing her there supporting me would mean everything to me, just like she means everything to me. Just hearing her say she will support me in this, it feels, I don’t know it’s hard to explain but I can say I care so much for her, that her opinion on this mattered to me. A big worry of mine was how she would take this? Because there’s a lot of people out there that would get the wrong idea. There’s no macho nonsense in this for me. This is about competing for charity, and challenging myself and doing something new. I’m coming into this as someone who has loved martial arts from a young age. I’m happy that she didn’t think that of me, and this just shows the kind of person she is and I’m grateful, I don’t know what I’m trying to say here, or I do and I just haven’t got the guts.

 

How will adapt to boxing coming from different forms of Martial Arts

When the referee says go, I will work for the entire contest, I won’t let him catch his breath just constant pressure from the bell and that’s how I have competed since day one no matter the sport. I know that my pace will be hard to deal with but what I don’t know is what he’ll be doing to deal with those attributes. Obviously I don’t know my opponent but I assume he will be taller, longer reach than me. If that is the case I will close distance, work body, force him into a corner and look to end the contest no matter what because he will be looking to do the same. When I know my opponent and get a chance to study his movement, body type I’ll have a better idea. I do want to be put in all positions in the contest to see how I adapt. Win or lose I’ll respect everyone who competes and we will shake hands at the end. The most important thing is to try get closer to finding a cure!

 

Cancer

I hate that word, hate reading it, I got health anxiety because of Cancer scares in the past, it left me fearful of doctors appointments. What it mostly does is destroy people’s lives. I have heard so many heart breaking stories of this disease that I won’t go into detail about. For years the only treatments are chemotherapy and the various forms of immunotherapy. Chemo for advanced cancer depending on which type can have as low as less than 5% chance of working, that isn’t for a cure but to keep cancer at bay with hope for a miracle. Many skin cancers such as Melanoma respond to immunotherapy which helps to boost your immune system to tackle the cancer. Melanoma has a 98% survival rate if caught with the earliest stage but less than 20% when it spreads to organs such as the brain or liver. While the odds are better than some others, it’s still not a cure once it hits those stages. There are cancers that have a high cure rate such as some cancers found in the thyroid gland but like other cancers, once it hits late stages, rates will drop. Why am I telling you this? because I feel we should all do something to help support and raise money to try combat this disease. Whether it’s getting punched in the face like myself or running a marathon if we’re able, why shouldn’t we? We’re all human beings, let’s look out for each other and do our best to help.

 

 

Every week I will be posting updates on training, my mind-set going into this up until I compete. Who knows, maybe from seeing me tackle something new will help others to try something new; ,  to see the happy, sad and different emotions that goes into something like this. I won’t filter anything, how I feel will be how I feel at that moment. Most-of-all I hope that others can help raise money for such a cause. 

 

 

 

 

 

 

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Mindsets

Work Ethic – From a young age I was always brought to be hardworking, to put everything into my work and life. I didn’t always follow, but through life experience; I learnt that if you don’t take things seriously or put all your effortin it will carry over to your next venture. Here’s an example – you’ve got a new job at say a coffee shop; you hate it, it’s a temp stop and you’re in it for the money only. If you don’t work hard in that environment you will take those traits over to other jobs. A job is a job and money is money. We’re all working on ourselves every day, we want our children, family or friends to see these values to help them in their lives and to take positive aspects away for them.

 

Trust – Without this you have nothing. Trust is a big issue in relationships and it really shouldn’t be like that. I do think the era we’re in is a big problem. I see more relationship issues now then I did say 5 years ago. I think lack of commitment is the issue for the majority at least from what I’ve seen. If you can’t commit then DON’T it’s not your life that gets effected because you simply are not committed. Things will get hard, life loves throwing a banana in-front of you from time to time. Those are the times you grow stronger together. Don’t bail because it hasn’t gone your way this time. What Happened to those days?

 

Positive thinking – I know! everyone rolls their eyes at it. I actually dislike the word I find it quite condescending and it can seem like it’s used to shove people’s problems a side. I really want a different term. How about listening to someone who had Anxiety, still gets minor effects but due to fighting back I can deal with those and they’re minor. The problem is that negative thoughts can drown you. It’s like being suffocated. Negative thoughts build because we let them grow. That isn’t saying we’re weak, it’s a learning process. Some deal with it differently. Some need support, I find that having someone to support you is valuable in dealing with life’s traps. Someone who can make your problems theirs and to tackle them together. When you’re drowning in bills, lost people, and nothing is going your way. Take a moment, look around you, do you have happiness in your life? Despite the drowning what makes you happy? It could one thing or many. Ever made it out of a certain situation? You got through it. Doesn’t matter if you had help or you tackled it yourself you got through it. Got through another? Well you’ve done that too, doesn’t matter how.

 

You can always get through it if you’ve done it before. Have a loving family? Friend, Boyfriend, Girlfriend, Wife, Husband who is with you through it? Look at them, they’re in your life with you. There’s always a bit of light, grab it make it bigger. Let that happiness pull you out because when you’re thriving through these problems the issues get weaker because you can fight them. If you have that special someone or someone’s, talk to them. If they’re right for you they will always be there.

 

It’s never a quick fix, can take many times, many reassurances, many chats, tears, struggles but again, take that moment to appreciate the good to the point it’s so strong that you can move forward. Go for a walk, favourite song? Listen to it. Breathing exercises? Try them. Pull out everything. There’s no silly ways or wrong ways to try get that happiness. Bills get paid one way or another, health issues can be fought, relationship issues can also be fixed. We just need to find the tools and again there’s no wrong tool of it works;

 

…unless it’s illegal drugs.

 

 

 

100 Facts about me

Here’s my 100 Facts about me!

BASIC

1. What’s your name? 
Ryan.
2. Any nicknames or aliases?
Ry(Short for Ryan) Rhino(London friends nick name for me)
3.Your Gender?
Male.
4. Your star sign?
Gemini.
5. How old are you?
30.
6. Your relationship status?
Can I say on here?
7. Any children?
No.
8. Any pets?
Dog, Bird.
9. Any tattoos or piercings?
9 Tattoo’s and 6 piercings.
10. What do you like about yourself?
Friendly, easy-going, respectful, Sense of humor.
11. What do you dislike about yourself?
Height!
12. Righty or lefty?
Lefty.

LASTS
13.The last thing you drank?
Diet Coke.
14. The last thing you ate?
KFC.
15. Your last phone call?
Pete.
16. Your last text message?
Don’t text. Whatsapp count? Becca
17. Your last email?
Work related.
18. The last song you listened to?
Fetty Wap – Trap Queen.
Q19: The last book you read?
The Dark Tower by Stephen King.
20. The last time you cried?
Men Don’t Cry Ask Amir Khan. Urm Got teary over something 3-4 weeks ago.
21. The last blog you read?
Becca’s 100 Facts.
22. The last person you spoke to?
Pete.
23. The last place you visited?
London.
24. Your last holiday abroad?
Cala.

HAVE YOU EVER?
25. Have you ever gotten back with an ex?
Once.
26. Have you ever been cheated on?
Yes.
27. Have you ever cheated on someone?
No!
28. Have you ever lost someone special to you?
Yes.
29. Have you ever been so drunk you threw up?
Many times in my young drinking days.
30. Have you ever fallen out of love with someone?
Yes.
31. Have you ever met someone who changed you?
Yes, in both ways.

32. Have you ever been in a situation where you found out who your real friends are?
Yes.
33. Have you ever kissed someone you probably shouldn’t have?
Yes, I kissed a friends girlfriend before I knew they were together. She kept flirting and came onto me and I just rolled with it. I felt awful after I found out. 
34. Have you ever found out people were talking about you behind your back?
Yup, it’s never bothered me.
35. Have you ever broken someone’s heart?
I don’t believe so.
36. Have you ever kissed a stranger?
Again during my younger drinking days I did.
37. Have you ever had your own heart-broken?
I have, that’s what you get when you put trust in the wrong people!
38. Have you ever had sex on the first date?
Never.
39. Have you ever been arrested?
I’ve been arrested twice for silly reasons in my teen years.
40. Have you ever been attracted to someone who isn’t the gender you usually find attractive?
No.
41. Have you ever done something you regret?
Yes but I wouldn’t change it as it’s part of life.
42. Have you ever had a threesome?
No Haha.
43. Have you ever embarrassed yourself in public?
Yes I walked into a bus drivers wind Mirror and broke it Haha I was also the first of the bus!
44. Have you ever misjudged someone?
I’ve misjudged personalities but only because they’ve acted a certain way. I’m a neutral person in general and don’t judge people.

YOUR BELIEFS AND OPINIONS
45. Do you believe in God?
No but people’s views are their views so I don’t judge people unless they force in upon others.
46. Do you believe in yourself?
In general yes but I also experience times when I don’t.
47. Do you believe in Santa Claus?
Of course, I saw him in the shopping centre last week..No my dad gave it away when I was a kid by using the same sweets from the kitchen in my stocking..Either Santa is a cheap skate or my dad was hustling me.
48. Do you believe in ghosts?
Yes but I believe as adults we lose that sense. I thing some children and animals are more able to sense them.
49. Do you believe in aliens?
Depends what you mean by Aliens. Of course there’s life on other planets whether it’s bacteria, animals or more intelligent life. The Universe is infinite but there’s the fact we’d never know because it would take many life times to reach that point.
50. Do you believe in miracles?
I’ve experienced things that surely couldn’t be coincidence.
51. Do you believe in the power of positive thinking?
Yes I do to a degree. It’s not going to safe some body from a life threatening disease but it can help you in tough situations.
52. Do you believe in love at first sight?
No, that’s your Willy talking. First comes attraction then comes the feelings after how ever long it takes to click.
53. Can money make you happy?
yes to a degree.
54. Would you describe yourself as a feminist?
I believe we’re equal.
55. Are you pro-life or pro-choice?
pro-choice, everyone’s situation is different.
56. Do you have strong political beliefs?
No
57. Do you have strong religious beliefs?
No.
58. What do you think the most important thing you can give a child is?
Love – All children deserve a family who will do anything to give them their all. Money, expensive things can never replace that.

RIGHT NOW
59. Are you eating anything right now?
No
60. Are you drinking anything right now?
Hot Chocolate
61. What are you listening to right now?
Sean Paul – She doesn’t mind(I’m in a fun mood!)
62. What are you thinking about right now?
If things are too good to be true or not!
63. What are you waiting for right now?
My tattoo design to get sent to me ready for tomorrow 🙂
64. What are you most excited about right now?
Things moving forward, my Tattoo!
65. What’s your pet hate right now?
People taking up the pavement and people who don’t say thanks when you hold the door open!
66. What’s your favourite thing right now?
I don’t have a fav but I have current preferences over other stuff(Doesn’t really answer the question lol)
67. If you weren’t answering these questions, what would you be doing right now?
Job searching or training

FIRSTS
68. Your first best friend?
A girl called Danielle
69. Your first kiss?
14-15 years old was my first proper kiss
70. Your first celebrity crush?
Pamela Anderson
71. Your first holiday?
Dominican
72. Your first pet?
Dog called Pob lol
73. Your first regret?
Not joining the Marines.
74. Your first job?
I worked in a garage.
75. Your first childhood memory?
First was a negative memory but positive was bowling with my family.

WHICH WOULD YOU CHOOSE?
76. Love or money?
Love, money comes and goes often.
77. Twitter or Facebook?
Facebook for the moment as new to Twitter!
78. Hook up or relationship?
Relationship.
79. Dogs or cats?
Dogs.
80. Coffee or tea?
Both!
81. Beer or wine?
Wine
82. Sweet or savoury?
No preference.
83. Introvert or extrovert?
I have traits of both.
84. Vampires or werewolves?
Vampires are way cooler than two legged Dogs unless we’re talking about Morkvarg(Coolest wolf)
85. Seaside or countryside?
Country! but I do enjoy city life depending on where.
86. Summer or winter?
Winter! Hot coffee, Scarfs, Jackets and cool air ❤
87. Books or movies?
Mostly movies but a good book with lots of depth will take priority.
88. Horror or comedy?
Comedy but I do love Horror.

A FEW RANDOM QUESTIONS TO FINISH ON
89. Do you wish you could change your past?
No because otherwise I wouldn’t be who I am.
90. What’s your dream job?
Zoologist, Game writer.
91: What’s your guilty pleasure?
Lady Gaga, Tulisa
92: What are you afraid of?
Cyanea Capillata they freak me out but I’m also fascinated by them. Woodlice(Erghhh)
93. What was the first thing you wanted to be when you grew up?
Wrestler.
94. If you could have any super power, what would it be?
Spiderman’s spider sense. 
95. If you could change anything about your life what would it be?
Nothing.
96. Would you want immortality?
Yes I want to see the world evolve and would love to make a difference with my infinite life experience.
97. If you could interview anyone alive or dead who would you choose?
George RR Martin or Emilia Clarke ❤
98. Would you say you are happy?
I’m very happy.
99. What one piece of advice would you give to yourself at age eighteen?
Carry on.
100. Where would you like to be in five years’ time?
With someone I care about, a family; children etc.